Healed From the Inside Out: Do These 4 Things For Emotional Healing

Recently within my exclusive membership community, Not By My Own Association, a participant asked "How do you handle emotional outbursts as it relates to emotional healing?" I believed that my answer to this question could help many, thus this blog post was created. Doing these four things will help you be healed from the inside out. When I think of emotional healing, I think of freedom. As a Domestic Violence Survivor and now Advocate who experienced emotional abuse (psychological) prior to enduring any other forms of abuse, I know the importance of emotional healing. It is a necessary component of wholeness and completion. It is the prerequisite before you even think about dating again. It is the way that you handle life's inevitable difficulties and challenges. Therefore, it is important to master your emotions and embrace the fruit of the spirit self-control. Oh yes, we must discuss the fruit of the spirit to fully understand emotional healing! Let's explore Galatians 5: 22-23 ERV: "But the fruit that the Spirit produces in a person’s life is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these kinds of things." The fruit is already within us and must be cultivated. What do you mean by this, Whit? I'm glad you asked. God has gifted us with everything we need; we just have to use them in times when we would otherwise like to act out in opposition. 

Let's use this example: You and your significant other get into an argument over a bill. Rather than having an emotional outburst as the participant put it (cursing them out, yelling, fussing), activate the fruit of the spirit self-control. Take a moment to calm down. Breathe. Remove yourself from the situation. Suggest talking about the issue at a later date after having time to de-escalate. It's really more simple than we make it. If we choose to curse, yell, fuss, etc. it will only get worse! Learning to exercise the fruit of the spirit will save us so much heartache and words that we can't take back later. Give it a try! The next time you encounter a situation that tempts you to "tell someone off" remember Galatians 5:22-23. Write it down and put it on a sticky note or in your cell phone's memo pad if you must.

To recap: You want to be healed from the inside out and avoid emotional outbursts? Do these four things:

1. Reflect and meditate on the Word Galatians 5:22-23 (fruit of the spirit).
2. Take a moment to calm down - breathe (as many times as you need to feel relaxed).
3. Remove yourself from the situation.
4. Suggest talking about the issue at a later date after having time to de-escalate. Once you do talk, do more listening than talking.

Of course, there are more things that you can do and we will talk about this more in the month of July inside of my group, Not By My Own Association. Join us! To learn more about the community, visit whitdevereaux.com. 

Whit Devereaux is an Award Winning and Bestselling Author, Domestic Violence Survivor, Advocate, and Empowerment Speaker. To book her at your next event, email info@whitdevereaux.com. For coaching services for aspiring authors, visit https://workwithwhit.as.me/discovery. We welcome your feedback, so post a comment below or email us and let us know how this post resonates with you!